I just don't get it - maybe I've just lived a sheltered life surrounded by positive people? Maybe my parents and the parents of my friends taught us right? Maybe it's stress, being overworked, lack of sleep...whatever - there's just no excuse for rudeness.
Lately - I guess in the past month or so - I've encountered some REALLY RUDE people on Facebook. People who I don't really know, making rude comments about pictures that I never asked their opinion of (and I don't really care what it is) or making uncalled for comments about my status messages. And not just on my pics or status messages - I've seen it on other people's status messages. Mainly, friends who are posting good, positive messages about changing their lives and becoming better people - they're shot down by rude, sometimes hurtful, comments from others.
I would love to know what provokes people to do these things - to deliberately write something mean or nasty or hurtful or just plain rude to someone - when that person is just trying to do the right thing.
Maybe I'm overly sensitive - I've already blogged about trying to overcome physical issues and the downright hurtful things that people say (still dealing with it...maybe people didn't read my blog about it!!) - and it just feels like whenever I read something like that (either on my page or someone elses page), I just feel like I've been punched in the stomach. The hurtful things that have been slung my way are from people that don't know me - or my situation - and haven't bothered to ask - they just sling their negative words my way thinking that they're intervening and saving me....and part of me wants to write back (as I'm sitting there crying) - but on the other hand...they're not worth it. I've tried explaining myself - and instead of apologies, I get "well, my friend had an eating disorder and you show the classic signs of it - and so many people are in denial about it" I'M FINE...I'M HEALTHY (probably a lot healthier than the people leaving the nasty comments) Don't these people think that I have a family that loves me and if I was in some sort of danger, they'd look after me?!?!
The people writing these hurtful things just need to stop and think about what they're getting ready to write before they write it.
I've read a couple of places that you should clean house of all the negative influences in your life.
I have my Facebook page for personal reasons - and also to share about being a Beachbody Coach and helping people become healthier and more fit. So I have lots of people that I'm not personally close with as "friends" on my page. Part of me thinks - just delete the rude people - but at the same time, they probably need a little positivity in their lives. And if I can break thru to them (even if it means taking some rude comments now and then from them) - then so be it...maybe they're not getting any positive vibes from anyone else. Maybe I can help change them?
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
In the words of Michelle Tanner...how rude!!!!
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Wow Kelly! Sorry to hear about that! I can definitely see how those comments would be hurtful! I think all of us who are trying to help others experience things like this at some point. Some people just aren't ready, aren't happy, healthy, etc and are so miserable they can't stand for other people to be the things they aren't! Those people who can never seem to be happy when something good happens to you despite the fact you always rejoice with them when good happens to them even if it is currently "raining" on your own life. Hang in there! For every one idiot there are hundreds of people who genuinely care, so remember that!
Have a great day!
It's middle school mentality, you know? I mean, people make fun of other people to cover up their own insecurities and end up perpetuating their own problems over and over and over again. And what sucks the most, is that some people aren't strong enough to endure the toxic crap people spew out of these insecurities. For example, in my case, my mom and sister used to gang up on me about my weight every chance they could and so I began to hate myself because they hated some part of their selves and though I've never been obese or significantly overweight, I struggle deeply with the way I see myself because of negativity that was spewed on me. It's effin lame and I'm learning to dig myself out of that funk. And I'm sure my story is one of 8 million stories of people who let the negativity beat them up and shape their thoughts about themselves. So I just wanted to say, good for you. Turn that effin frown upside down and keep doing what you do so well and show those who are the negative bullies and those of us who were dumb enough to be victimized by negativity, that if we love ourselves and live happily no one can hurt you but yourself.
-Colleen (from Jukebox a couple of years ago)
=)
Nice post! Just shake it off and delete the comment and then delete the friend (if they are a friend)...and if it's a note to your personal post.
You and Jimmy are doing great things for a lot of people... Continue to lead by example... stay positive, stay healthy, stay fit...it does rub off on people!
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